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Myth 1: Birth parents who care about their child would never consider adoption. You may think that if you consider adoption for your child, you are an uncaring, selfish person. In fact, women who make adoption plans for their children are among the most loving and selfless, for they put their child's needs first. Your pregnancy counsellor can arrange for you to speak with birth parents that have already placed a child for adoption and struggled with this issue. Allowing your child to be born, rather than choosing abortion, is a loving choice. Choosing to place your child with a family that can provide a stable, loving home is an act of love and sacrifice, not an act of abandonment. Myth 2: A birth parent will never know anything about her child and his or her adoptive parents in the following years. You may be thinking that you will never know anything about your child's future life if you choose adoption. But today, the sharing of information is the norm. As the birth parent, you can help develop an adoption plan that has the degree of openness you want. Myth 3: Adoption is an irresponsible solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Perhaps you're ruling out adoption because you think you would be irresponsible if you made that choice. You may feel that the consequence for being sexually active and becoming pregnant is to parent your child. Remember, just because you got pregnant does not mean that you are ready to be a parent. And even if you aren't able to be a parent at this time in your life, you are still a good person and may be a wonderful parent when you are older or in a different situation. |
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